January 1st, how predictable. Yes we survived 2016 and have entered 2017. I have mixed feelings about this new year, but no matter how I feel life moves on. For New Years Eve Vance and I, Ava, hosted friends for nonsexual fun. It was difficult that Jay was here and we didn’t play because we miss him, but we had fun anyway.
Announcement: Vance and I got married
We semi-eloped, inviting our parents, and went to the courthouse. It was both very difficult to keep it to ourselves and rather fun to surprise the people we know.
You may have a question, why so soon? Didn’t we meet this year, are you crazy? Well, a few reasons for the timing, mostly practical purposes. We love each other, have zero doubts, and paperwork is easier when you’re married. Soon we will be sharing all bills and insurance, there’s a lot of paperwork steps when you get married. We did meet this year, and we probably are crazy. I feel that if this is a mistake, it’s one I really want to make. But everything inside says this isn’t a mistake. We fit, mentally, sexually, emotionally. Do we fight, yes of course, but at no point do we want to bail.
We also picked the timing for travel reasons, his mom travels for work, and she would be in town that day.
Resolutions
I have a few, so here goes:
- Improve my Health
I have a few ideas to kick my fibromyalgia in the ass.
- Wear More Corsets
Let’s face it, they are fun.
- Continue my Healing Journey
I am tired of my emotional bullshit caused by my Bitch of a sister.
- Fight for Human Rights
I do live in the USA, an asshole was elected to office and I refuse to sit down and be quiet. Human rights are under-fire, as a bisexual poly-amorous atheist female I am under-fire. There are too many threats and it’s too easy to sit with your head up your own ass. I refuse to go quietly into the night.
New Term Discovered: Sensual BDSM
According to the fetlife group Sensual Domination and Sensual BDSM there is a term I was missing out of my BDSM vocabulary. Sensual Play/Dominance/BDSM.
Sensual BDSM — the blending of sensuality with BDSM is innate to some, a contradiction to others, and a concept that many are completely unaware of due to the prevalent belief that BDSM only involves giving or receiving pain in a sadistic manner.
The sensual submissive — The sensual submissive does not usually respond well to the violence and pain of BDSM. They respond to the simple power over the mind and body. The control is the dominant, their closeness, their strength of mind and company is enough to start this submissive on their journey. They succumb to their dominant by mere voice, touch and presence. Sensual play brings them deeper under the dominants control until the desired state is achieved.
The sensual dominant — As its BDSM counterpart, the dominant draws their satisfaction from power. Violence is usually not the sensual dom/mes way, but control still is very much a part of it. It’s more of a slower, more sensual attack on the mind and body. Matched with their sensual submissive counterpart, they steep in that power and control, building strength and momentum with their responses, just as the BDSM dominant does from their play.
I found this to be extremely descriptive of what we do! Vance likes pressure, some pinching, and sensation play, but that’s the breadth of his pain/discomfort play. Jay enjoys his balls tugged, he seems to have a stronger masochistic drive than either Vance or me, but it’s all about the control and the pleasure for us. Finding that there is a subsection of BDSM that we belong to is exciting.
I hope you all enjoy a Sensual and Sexy New Years week!
I’m considering keeping a tally of orgasms experienced in my presence, let me know what you think of that.
Happy Humping.