I, Ava, still exist, I promise. My life has changed a lot in the past year, I don’t think anyone can say their life hasn’t. A lot of ups and downs to go over.
Early 2020
It started well, Vance and I met someone, Shawn, through reddit. We went on a date, hit it off well. After that we had him over twice where things got very steamy.
Unfortunately March came around and everything started shutting down. My immune system is not the best, and I am considered high risk of complications if I get Covid 19. Around the beginning of March I started talking to a woman through the HER app. We were looking to have a first date, but everything started shutting down. So I decided to be closed until I’m able to go out safely.
June-September 2020
This is where it gets “interesting” for me. By interesting I mean not great. I woke up one day in an extreme amount of pain, couldn’t eat, could barely move. Went to the doctor, and we couldn’t determine the cause. Fast forward through a physically miserable summer to mid September. I got lab results that indicated my liver wasn’t functioning properly. So more tests were ordered.
Results? My gallbladder wasn’t functioning and it damaged my liver. So, I needed my gallbladder removed. Cool, I guess. I was already looking to schedule a total hysterectomy for early 2021, so I decided that having the surgeries done on the dame day was best. So that’s what we planned.
Vance also lost his job at the end of summer. I haven’t worked since March, so it was very tense and unsexy for a bit. Stress doesn’t bring out the most creative sides sexually. How often we had sex decreased for a bit between our shared financial stress and my health stress.
End of 2020
A couple weeks before 2020 ended I had my surgery. I’m still recovering currently. It went way smoother than I expected, and I’m stronger than I thought. Vance got a job, which has reduced our stress significantly. But instead of more sex, I’ve had surgery.
Since my cervix was removed I can’t have any penetration (even a finger) until I’m cleared, which sucks. I really hoped it would kill my libido but starting menopause has upped my libido. I was cleared to have externally stimulated orgasms, which I thought would be unnecessary. First two times I orgasmed I experienced pain and fatigue after.
Welcuming 2021
We are 10 days in, and aside from the insanity in the USA, it’s been pretty good. I’m extremely horny, and last two orgasms I’ve had haven’t caused major pain! Mild discomfort and fatigue (though all good orgasms cause some fatigue, no?).
Over the last few months Vance and I have discussed his submission in new ways. He told me of his interest in orgasm denial and chastity play, but later downplayed it because he didn’t want to hand over control. He’s quite the brat like that. So he revealed he wanted to explore it more over the last year. We had bought cages, and not found a proper fitting one before. Prompting us to order two different styles of soft cock cages.
Alas, they did not fit properly either. With Vance’s first paycheck we are ordering a more custom cage. I’ll do a post on that and add the link to the shop. This shop does 3D printed cages, she has standard designs but the rings and cages are interchangeable, so you can get a more custom fit. We are very excited, just today we figured out exactly what we will be ordering. It’ll still be a few more days until we order them though. Our biggest issue getting the fit correct was the ring that goes around the balls and cock. The sets we found with variable rings included maxed out at 55mm diameter. Well Vance is larger than 55mm. I measured him today after bringing him to orgasm and he’s around 70mm.
All this talking about my mortal in chastity is exciting. I miss penetration, but I’m also so excited to lock his cock and own it in ways I never have. There will be a future post devoted to this topic, including some fun ways we’ve been exploring this control without a physical cage.